Most of you do not know how stressful and tumultuous this year has been for me. Lost my wife of 39 years to gross medical incompetence and had to watch her suffer each day as we went through this. It really started three and a half years ago though. I was planting seeds in the garden one day and I came in and she was acting a bit odd. “How are you doing” I asked and she said “I am fine”. I knew right away she was not. She just wanted to be left alone but I knew better. So off to ER we go and after a half hour they come out and tell me I can see her in ICU and that she had had a major brain bleed. For the following three years there were variations in her condition and a slow decline.
Then she starts having trouble getting out of chairs and standing up and walking and I finally tell her we are going to get your spine looked at. The Doctor comes in with X-Rays in hand and kind of angry asking her why she had not been in there four or five years ago. Because she lies about her problems to me I said. Always after me to go to the Doctors for everything and she does not go.
Surgery went fine and off to rehab. First few days there she was walking and going the exercises and things looked good. Then they let her get a Urinary Tract Infection and she quickly was in trouble. These gross incompetents in a rehab nursing facility did not do UTI testing and let her get in a bad way before the local hospital who had her in to check for a possible stroke found the infection. Her behavior was like when she had her major stroke + anger and refusing to eat and hitting and biting nurses. I now know how serious these UTI’s are and women can go crazy, forever, and can die from these things.
It was the most horrific thing I have ever had to witness to see her each day and it took two months of pure agony before Hospice mercifully helped her leave. I remember them calling me to say I need to come up and meet with the Hospice people and sign papers because their was no more hope. I sign those papers and the second I am done they start taking tubes out and the momentary WAIT, DON’T DO THAT was in my mind but I knew it had to be. We buried her at the age of 73 8-8-25
To those of you who have had trouble reaching me or slow or no responses might have some insight into why this happened now. I miss her but I am grateful this ugly three and a half year trial is over. It is at least for her. My whole life is upside down over this and it has been hard to keep up with things though that is changing for the better. I am 73 years old just like Janet was and have no intention of stopping. I have had real struggles with loss and depression which are getting much better. I talk to everything now even though no one is there because I miss my companion. I am finding out most widowers do.
So, what does all this mean for the speaker world and I? I have enjoyed the audio world and the people I have met through it and intend to continue just what I have been doing for years now though there is most certainly going to be an amazing two way speaker being offered soon in addition to the tweeters. I will also be cutting more wood lens sets too. I have also started buying up old speakers to fix again which is where this whole thing really got started years ago. I had given up on finding used speakers at a price I could afford to pay and then fix up and sell on. Janet’s PC had Fakebook marketplace on it which had nice things close by and I have started using it. I figure that jerk zuckerterd can get all the data he wants from my deceased wife’s pc and no doubt find it useful. I will have some projects involving used speakers I will be posting on as 2026 progresses.
At this time I expect the blog to become far more active and look forward to interacting with my speaker friends in 2026 and on. In the mean time I hope that Christmas was good for each and every one of you and that New Years will be too as you safely usher in the New Year.
Regards Dave,
And thanks everyone for your patience.
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